You Control Your Own Destiny

Samantha - Bradford, Rhode Island
Entered on November 12, 2010
Age Group: Under 18
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The saying “you control your own destiny” applies to the everyday life of us all. The way you act will determine the actions of the people around you, who you are as a person, and what you chose to get out of life. Equally important, the decisions you make will affect you in both positive and negative ways. Depending on the overall outcome, your reaction to the decision will be your destiny. Destiny is your life and the process as we know is very repetitive.

My destiny lies in my own hands. Everything I’ve come to learn came from my past experiences. For instance there’s my intelligence, values, and morals. If I didn’t want to learn these things, I wouldn’t have. I know that if I have a negative attitude about a situation, a negative outcome will come about and the same goes for positive situations. I believe that if you have a dream for your destiny you can easily make it come true. Having confidence in you is just the first step.

However, some people like to think that fate plays a role in your destiny. As goes the saying “it’s meant to be”. I don’t disagree but think it’s merely just an excuse for the things in life that are unexplainable. We cannot control every part of our lives, no, but we can make changes to enhance it or make it to our liking. Having a positive attitude will withstand a positive outcome for your destiny. Make your life what you want it to be and the rest should fall right into place.

Life is far too short to live unimpeded. There was a day when I wasn’t feeling to good with myself. Last night was my last volleyball game and my insensible Dad didn’t show up like he said it was going to. I was exceptionally upset because not only did he miss this game, he missed every single one of them. I walked in school with bitter looks along with a horrible attitude and didn’t understand why no one cared or had some advice for me. Then, I took the time to sit down and look at the situation in their perspective. If Ias dealing with another person that was being rude and negative, I definitely wouldn’t want to help nor give them advice about how to resolve the issue. Instead, a better alternative for me would have been to address the person politely leaving my problems at the door and tell them what was wrong. In the end, I would have got the advice I needed. My destiny would be positive because I approached them properly having good intentions.

Your future is yours and you have to right to control it. Take the first step and gain some positive vibes. Instead of being critical, be constructive with your mistakes and learn from them. Leave the worries behind and conquer what you think is rightfully yours in life. Succeeding isn’t a hard task and anyone can do it with the right amount of knowledge, values, and common sense. The people around you, who you are as a person, and what you chose to get out of life are depending on it. So be proud of you and control your own destiny!