Amanda - Houston, Texas
Entered on February 28, 2009
Age Group: Under 18
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This I believe that everyone should be pure until marriage. As a young child sitting next to my mother in church, the preacher always said “Abstinence is the key to the good life.” During my childhood, I never knew what that meant. As I grew older, more and more of my peers were sharing their “first time” stories, which caused me to wonder why the preacher expressed the value of abstinence so strongly when everyone I knew did not believe in abstinence. Then those same friends came to me crying about how they were having a baby and the father wanted nothing to do with it. They were also depressed because the boy never called them anymore. My most confident friends lost their self- esteem, and I realized that sex before marriage is nothing more than a self-inflected pain. From the monthly HIV/AIDS tests to the pregnancy tests taken, I told myself in seventh grade that I wanted nothing to do with that lifestyle. I agreed with my preacher that abstinence was the best route for any young woman to take in life. In my generation, girls are having babies at thirteen and no one to take care of neither the baby nor the mother. Teenage pregnancy has taken my generation by storm, and I want to be that one-in-a-million girl that tells a boy “NO” before marriage. I believe that change has to start somewhere, and I am the perfect person with whom it can begin. At first, I thought I was crazy and no boy would want to even look my way, but much to my surprise, it was totally different. Abstinence makes a boy realize more than a girl’s looks and makes him respect her mind rather than worship her hips. Abstinence does not only help with relationships with the opposite sex, but also with one’s self. It increases self- esteem, creates personal morals, and builds confidence. Before I decided to be abstinent, I had low self- esteem because I just wanted a boy to talk to me, but after that decision, I am more confident than I ever imagined. Abstinence is a moral that every young woman should agree to have and every young man to respect. My generation should adapt abstinence not only because of the fear of teenage pregnancy, but also for the future generations. Abstinence is an essential moral in my life, and I plan to not let anyone alter that decision just to become popular or important in life. Now when I hear the preacher say, “Abstinence is the key to the good life,” I shake my head in agreement and believe that what he says is true because I am living the good life. This I believe in purity is vital to the world and a major value in my personal life.