i believe everything happens for a reason

Ellen - excelsior, Minnesota
Entered on February 24, 2009
Age Group: Under 18
Themes: purpose
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You may say, “There are some things that don’t have a down side.” That is true, but for the most part the major, and some minor, parts of life have to have a negative side. I think the negative side is there for you to realize what the positive side is. Bread molding, for example, represents that you can’t keep everything forever, that the only constant is change, and change brings good and bad results.

I believe things in life will go wrong, but they will also go right at some point too. We fight with friends and significant others, we lose things that are important to us, and we make bad decisions. But what fun would life be if there wasn’t adventure and uncertainty? It’s kind of like Newton’s third law of motion: for every action there is an equal and opposite reaction. That law is saying that every force, or in this case, decision, will have a good and a bad consequence. I bet everyone could think of a story about a decision making a positive and negative impact on their life, one of my decisions at the was at the age of 5.

My mom asked me if I wanted to start school and be one of the youngest kids in my grade or wait another year and be one of the oldest for my grade. I was determined to start school even though my mom wanted me to wait another year. She thought just because my birthday is in August that I wouldn’t like it, that I would be too young, and that I would regret it later. But, I had already made up my mind and wanted to go. Plus my dad was on my side, so it gave my opinion a little extra push. But I wanted to be with other kids that didn’t go to my day care, I didn’t really like going to my day care day after day with the same people being left behind. It was just playing on the swing set and hearing babies cry. There are positives and negatives to this story; the positives are that I got to stay with my best friends, and now, in high school, I am in the same level of math as my brother, who is a sophomore. So I get to tease him about that. The negatives are that I am one of the youngest in the grade, and I won’t get my driver’s license until a month before junior year. But I like the decision I made, even if the only real reason that occurred to me when I was that age was that I wanted to be with friends.

Everyday decision impact things, even minor decisions like eating breakfast to make sure you don’t get hungry, but it can also make you late for your bus. I think it is very important for decisions to have good and bad reactions attached to them, because one side helps you see the other side more clearly. So I believe that every decision has a positive and negative reaction. If there was not a bad reaction how would you define a good reaction?