I believe we as people let others determine how we do in life. When I
was growing up in Chicago as a preteen I always heard my parents talking about
the importance of being my own person. Now, we can all certainly relate to
when we were growing up as teenagers we heard the same speeches from our
parents. For instance, “Why do you let your friends influence you to do
badly?” Or, “Why do you walk around with your pants below your butt?” One of
my favorites, “Be a leader not a follower.” For 16 years I have heard the same
sayings over and over, but each time my parents spoke to me I refused to
listen to them. I never took my parents advice; I never stopped to wonder why
I needed to stand above the so called “herd” of my peers in high school. It
took my 17th birthday to change my belief of how others influenced me, but it
took me 18 years to put my plan for changing myself into action. I believe the
reason it took me so long to make this necessary change was due to two
factors. The first factor blocking my change was the fact that I again had let
my peers around me shape how I had lived my life. The second was the fact that
I was a teenager and I did what most teenagers do when they are my age. I
chose to not listen to my parents. The two factors above were the reasons why
my belief and change took so long to happen.
My parents always told me two things: to focus on school and not to
let others affect how I do in school. As all teenagers chose to do when
parents say something I was no exception. I took in the advice of my parents
and let it go through my ears. As my high school years quickly passed I began
to kick myself for not taking my parent’s advice while it was being given to
me. From freshman year of high school and on I struggled to catch up with my
friends so I could graduate on time. I was a follower in a pool of freshman
followers and it was only at the end of my sophomore year that I realized I
let my peers dictate my success not only in school, but in life.
High school to me seemed like a second home to me and my peers where
my mother and my father. Everything anyone of my peers ever told me I listened
to. If my pants fit I was told by my peers to get some pants that were loose.
In other words I was taught the way to wear my clothes. I listened to all of
what my peers had to say all the way till I got my first hard lesson. I
remember it was a late spring afternoon and I had a book bag loaded with
homework. My parents told me to complete my work before I did anything else so
I pulled out my homework and got started. As I started the phone began to ring
so I picked it up. I hear my name “Brice” as I hesitate to answer. I soon
realize that it is my buddy Mike so I say hello back. The next thing I know I
here, “Brice, it’s your pal Mike. Do you want to go to a party with me
tonight?” Before I knew it my lips were saying yes faster than my head was
saying no. I had gone from being at home studying to going to my friend Mike’s
house. The blazing lights heat my eyes as I had entered the party scene. All I
here is “Brice you made it come goof off with us.” I didn’t even questions why
I had chosen to come to the party over doing what was right, my homework. By
the end of that night I regretted ever going to Mike’s party
because I had a test the next day and failed it. I learned that being my own
person is the most important things because if I am not my own person I will
let others lead me. Others leading me may ultimately cost me the things I want
out of life.
In the end I learned the lesson that would forever be my belief. I
learned that if I give people power that they will eventually play an
influence on whether I do well in school or not. Looking back on that past
event I can now say that we as people can go from being the Sheppard to being
the sheep if we let ourselves go down that road.