My Beliefs

Tonya - Kansas City, Missouri
Entered on October 16, 2008
Age Group: 30 - 50
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My Beliefs

Truly inspired by the words that came out of my child’s mouth, I returned to school to continue my education. Already aware of the importance of an education, I began to plan the next four years of my life. The impact of an honest family discussion led to what seemed to be the beginning of a new life for me.

One day while sitting at the table, surrounded by my four children and my fiancé, I began to speak on the importance of an education. All of a sudden I fell speechless. Theara, My fourteen year old daughter, began to speak. She said “Momma, you can’t get mad if we decide not to go to college; you didn’t go and you turned out fine.” The words that came out of her mouth dazed me. I felt as if I had been hit with a brick in the back of my head. Her words, true, but piercing, stung me like a bee. I then replied, “You are absolutely right. I can’t be mad, but I have the right to be upset.”

As the conversation continued, I decided that I was going back to school. I wanted my children to know that I lead by example. They also needed to know that I practice what I preach. Not only was my decision based on what my daughter said, I was tired of those educated people stealing the promotions from me. My fourteen year old daughter’s statement was the push I needed to do something that I should have done years ago.

For weeks, I replayed my daughter’s statement. How could someone of her age cause me to take such huge steps? I knew in my heart I wanted more out of life. Am I ready for the responsibility? How am I going to survive in the midst of all the teenagers? How is this going to affect my relationship with my fiancé? What lessons will my children learn? What about my job? All of these questions and more kept me awake at night.

Finally, I decided to call a family meeting. I told them that my decision to return to school was final. Everyone gave me their support. Although, my eleven year old thought I was too old to go to college. I spent days researching different schools. Then a commercial for Colorado Technical University mentioned small class sizes. At that time I was sold. Colorado Technical University was the school that I chose to attend.

What an impact on my life. Returning to school has changed my life mentally, physically, and emotionally. My children are now looking forward to going to college; after graduation from high school. Upon completion of college I am going to marry my fiancé and take my family on a vacation to Cancun Mexico.