A fight can help better a relationship

M - Napoleon, Ohio
Entered on May 16, 2008
Age Group: 18 - 30
Themes: love, setbacks
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Every parent teaches their children not to fight as they are growing up. They want them to get along with others and have happy relationships with friends and family. I believe that a fight in a relationship makes the two involved have stronger feelings for the other person. I’m talking small fights, not fist fights. If two people are in a relationship and they love each other, a fight between them should not interfere with how they truly feel about their partner.

I believe I have found that special person to love, and loving her doesn’t mean we have to get along one hundred percent of the time. There have been times in our relationship when we bickered, but never anything over the top. She may get mad at me for something I say, and then ten minutes later she’s over it. Both of us know that we love each other, and there is no point in being mad at the one you love. Not everyone’s relationship is going to be anger-free, and if someone said theirs was, I want to meet him or her and ask how he or she does it.

I can recall a time in which my girlfriend and I were at a low in our rollercoaster of a relationship, so to speak. I don’t remember what she was mad about, something that I didn’t want to do and something that she did, like playing checkers. She got mad over something not really important, and she said to me that sometimes in a relationship people need to bicker and work things out. What’s important is that in the end, both of us know that we love each other.

That got me thinking, and I realized that she was right. A fight here and there allows us to know that we have a happy, healthy relationship. Every fight makes us stronger. I believe that she is perfect for me, and I know that she feels the same way.

Over a year later, we still are dating, happy, and in love. We still get mad at one another, but both of us know that there is nothing to hold over the others head. In the year and about four months we have been dating, I know what makes her mad and what makes her happy, and what makes me happy is that we know even despite the fact that we fight we always look past the negative and see more of the positive happy side to our relationship. I think we will stay this way for many more years to come.