Order to Go?

Elizabeth - san diego, California
Entered on November 29, 2007
Age Group: 18 - 30
Themes: love, morality
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At age 20 I’m starting to have an idea of how a relationship should be for it to succeed. Over the years that had passed since I first started to date, I’ve come to think of relationships as having a meal. Every person is different in appearance and personalities, just as a hamburger is different from a soup.

When one arrives to the dinner table there are usually different appetizers, main courses, and deserts. There is so much from which to choose that sometimes a person may rush into choosing a meal that may result in food poisoning.

As in a relationship a person should first take a look at everything the date has to offer. If the date looks appealing, dinner will start.

While I was in high school I could not understand why girls ended up pregnant after their first date with a guy, and now I understand it happens because they settled with the over-heated soup appetizer.

When a person first sits to eat (that is to start a relationship), usually an appetizer, such as a soup, is given. The soup should be taken slowly; many relationships succeed because the couple is willing to take it slow and learn more about each other. One of my relationships not only failed because we were both immature but because we had a purely physical attraction and we did not bother getting to know more about ourselves; we thought that an appetizer as the main attraction was good enough. If the soup is over-heated it should be either put aside for it to cool down or should just be forgotten and the meal should be changed. But if the soup is good then the main attraction should be next.

The most important part of having dinner is eating the actual meal, where time is spent enjoying the “flavor” and getting to know the person more on depth without being rushed.

When it comes to the meal there are more characteristics to pay attention to. All or at least most of the meal must be enjoyable; a person must like it enough that they would like to finish their meal. If the main attraction does not completely satisfy one’s taste it either could be rejected or suggestions could be made to enjoy the meal better.

I believe that after the appetizers and the main attraction is properly eaten is when desserts should be considered. It is important to have dinner as it should be without being forced to take more than what the body needs or wants. Dessert should be the last act done by a couple after a good amount of time, if done correctly it is even sweeter. If sex is too early in the relationship the consequences could be dire, such as unplanned pregnancy or diseases.

If done correctly then the whole relationship will be more rewarding. A restaurant is always better than fast food.