This I Believe

ashley - lagrange, Illinois
Entered on October 1, 2007
Age Group: Under 18
  • Podcasts

    Sign up for our free, weekly podcast of featured essays. You can download recent episodes individually, or subscribe to automatically receive each podcast. Learn more.

  • FAQ

    Frequently asked questions about the This I Believe project, educational opportunities and more...

  • Top Essays USB Drive

    This USB drive contains 100 of the top This I Believe audio broadcasts of the last ten years, plus some favorites from Edward R. Murrow's radio series of the 1950s. It's perfect for personal or classroom use! Click here to learn more.

I BELIEVE YOU CANNOT JUDGE A BOOK BY ITS COVER. Everyday people are judged by their appearance or sex without even having a chance to portray themselves in the way they want to. It takes true character to look past it and take the time to get to know the real person inside. I believe that society bases too many things on appearance and should focus more on personality and true talent.

People who judge a person before they know them are unwilling to learn about the person that is waiting to come out. I am not saying that I have never judged anyone, but I always make sure that it does not affect how I think of the person. I make sure I push those thoughts aside to give myself a chance to see the person dwelling within. Sometimes it isn’t easy, but it has to be done.

ALL MY LIFE I HAVE BEEN JUDGED BY MY GENDER. I cannot stand when people say I cannot do something because I am a girl or my job is just to stand there and look pretty. It makes me feel like I am incapable of really establishing who I am because he or she already has an idea of their own. I remember one time in the eighth grade I was at the only coed track meet of the season and this coach from another team bluntly told me that there was no way that I could beat could beat his runner because I was a girl. His comment frustrated me to no end and made me even more determined to show him I WAS CAPABLE. The coach’s remark made me push myself even harder during the race and I beat his runner. On that day I realized that no matter what, I will be judged for the rest of my life because of my appearance and gender. I think it is unfair, but there is nothing I can do about it. The things I can do are learn to accept that this will happen to me and use it to make me more determined.

The only way to grow as a person from comments made or left unsaid is to use them to prove the person wrong. They should be used as a foundation for increasing a person’s confidence and self esteem.