This I Believe

Tiz - Gastonia, North Carolina
Entered on February 19, 2007
Age Group: 30 - 50
  • Podcasts

    Sign up for our free, weekly podcast of featured essays. You can download recent episodes individually, or subscribe to automatically receive each podcast. Learn more.

  • FAQ

    Frequently asked questions about the This I Believe project, educational opportunities and more...

  • Top Essays USB Drive

    This USB drive contains 100 of the top This I Believe audio broadcasts of the last ten years, plus some favorites from Edward R. Murrow's radio series of the 1950s. It's perfect for personal or classroom use! Click here to learn more.

I believe learning to like yourself is one of the hardest but most important lessons you can learn. As a child I remember my parents saying to me “you better like who you are or no one else is going to.” I did not truly grasp the impact of what they were trying to teach me when I was younger, but as I get older I realize finding inner peace within yourself is vital. I realize that learning to love yourself is important not only for you but for all the others with whom you interact. I also believe that learning to love who you are as a person can be one of the toughest challenges we continually face throughout our lives.

Now that I am in my forties I do feel I have a better handle on what is important and on who I am as a person. Most days I am confident about being a good mother, I know I am good at my job, and I am blessed with wonderful family and friends. But…. there are days when I get low and I begin to doubt myself. Days when I lose it with my kids…..then feel like an awful mother. Days when I look toward the future and know there is little college savings for my children…. and feel I am falling short providing for my children’s future. Days when I second guess my parenting choices… and pray that I am doing the right things as a parent. Days when I look around and wonder did I make the right choice in pursuing a career that I truly love……..but that is not lucrative.

Even on these days when I can’t quite believe in myself somehow, somewhere in the depths of my being I reach down and pull up the things I know about myself that are good. Things I remember my mother always celebrated about me as a person. I take this and let it rise above the feelings of being overwhelmed and inadequate and I decide to get over beating myself up. I realize I AM the best thing for my children and I DO have something to offer those around me and I AM truly blessed in so many ways. Then I remember there are so many people other than myself that have so much less and so I am thankful for all that life has given me.

Then I smile. I like who I am. I celebrate who I am and I take long, strong strides back into the world with my head high as I step into another day. I like who I am and I can face the world…. This I do believe.