Non-Conformity

Life provides opportunity for people to create themselves, one of the things that create people are beliefs. Beliefs change as we grow into our environment, soaking in everything we see, hear, and feel. I believe in nonconformity because I am myself when I don’t conform. If we have to give up something about ourselves, it would not be worth losing that piece of personality that makes us who we are. There are moments in my past where conforming made me feel more welcomed like changing my clothing style, trying to do things other people did, after a while I wasn’t happy and I realized that this did not make me happy. High school, life experiences, and expressing ourselves is just the start to how we allow ourselves to be changed.

When I got to high school, everything changes and we become under the impression that we need to tan, wear a lot of makeup, and put ourselves out there. If you are a guy, feeling the need to get more chicks, bulk up, or get the best car. I have lost a couple of friends that fell into conformity and it’s sad to think that they feel they are not good enough to be themselves. I, myself, have been bullied just because I was different and I see it happen to other people too. That’s when I noticed that everyone is going to have something bad to say no matter what I do so I live my life doing what pleases me. People have said things but they don’t know me, and I learned that it’s okay because it’s the type of person they want to be.

There are going to be moments where we feel like we are in a situation with no voice, but what is important is sticking to that no matter how we feel. Learning from our experiences is needed to look at the next thing we see with more clarity and knowledge. We all have different views and thoughts on religion, politics, the world, and people. We don’t need to be the same, if that was the case then where would the uniqueness in life be? I believe in nonconformity because I want to be who I want to be, not what society wants and everyone else should be what they want as well. It’s barbaric how there are standards on who we should be.

When I started believing in nonconformity it was hard at first to accept the judgment but I kept telling myself it will always be that way no matter what and that I should just make myself happy. My belief helped me look at things differently by giving me self-confidence when it came to things I was scared of like expressing like my hair or makeup and even what I wanted to be in the future. Having that self-confidence helped me become the better person in the end by giving advice to others about doing what they feel is right for them and not for others. It’s okay to maintain a reputation as long as we keep it real and not let it affect how we want to live. We express ourselves in different ways with our appearances and hobbies and we all need to understand that everyone will like and dislike different things.

Non-conforming is easier said than done, but so are other things in life like stopping bullying, helping one another, and doing things out of the norm. Life doesn’t get easier and we are only young once and we should stick up for what we think is right and help other people understand that too. We can all change the way we live our lives in general by being more understanding and accepting towards others’ differences. We are all given the right to speak our minds, but why should we speak negatively? We should understand and accept others. What is so wrong with people being different?