What Goes Around Comes Around.

What goes around comes around. Sounds simple right? Wrong. There are many examples of how this does not always work out correctly. I will gladly share one example with you. I was a freshman in high school and had a boyfriend who I thought was my world. Turns out I was mistaken. I was head over heels in love, or so I thought. There was always something about this boy, his charm was so endearing. When he told me I was beautiful I, of course, was under his spell. Everything was going perfect until one fateful day when he took it way too far.

J always tried to push me too far. I thought he just loved me so much that he wanted to do these things with me. I always felt uncomfortable when he tried to take our sexual relationship to the next level, but I thought maybe I was just being too innocent. I always tried to make myself appear more experienced just so he wouldn’t think I was a little girl anymore. I did not realize until later that he was only taking advantage of me. I would tell him no and he would respond with “It is okay, you will like it, I promise”, and with that our sexual relationship progressed.

One day I had and eye opening experience, and I finally realized what he was doing to me was not love, but pure abuse. I left his house in a hurry, and called my mom to come pick me up. To this day she does not know of what happened that day, and I hope I will find the courage to tell her, but do not fret what he did to me came back around and hit him like a train.

I got my revenge on J when I figured out what a mess his life became without me under his control. He found other women to control but those faded away shortly because those other women were not as naïve as I was. I believe that when he realized the others were not going to fall for it he moved away entirely from the tiny town .

I heard from a mutual friend recently, only to figure out that J has found another woman to control. Not only did he have complete control, but also a newborn son. I also heard that he was forced into marriage, and complains about how he hates what his life has become. When I broke up with him he told me I would not go anywhere with my life, and I would be stuck with kids in the small town of M. If only he could see my face now, and realize that karma hits hard. I wish I could show him how much stronger I have become from this whole ordeal.

I hope the best for J, his wife, and his newborn child. I hope he steps up to the plate to finally become a responsible adult. Even though there are times I am sure he has found joy in everyday life, there will also be plenty of regrets to follow. He is the reason I am as strong as I am today, and I would never wish harm on him now or ever more in the future, which is why I am okay with his happiness. J’s bad decisions have given me the willpower to do great things with my future. Next fall I will be attending college to pursue my life goals and dreams of going to school to major in theatre and communication. One day he will see me, and I will have made a name for myself and be a success. The complete opposite of what he has thought this entire time.

* Names have been changed.