Do you know what it feels like to hold a grudge? I believe in not holding grudges. It can destroy families, friendships and can also destroy lives. Holding grudges and not letting them go can cause many mixed emotions like depression, sadness, and stress. Having grudges can make you upset about things.
My dad holds a grudge towards my uncle. They didn’t talk for a good eight years. My mom and my siblings have tried to help my dad get passed it. It was about their own restaurant and my uncle wouldn’t consider him as a worker, but he was. He wouldn’t get paid or anything .Going into the eighth year is when they finally started talking a bit. We were glad he had let it go a bit. My cousins and I had a hard time trying to hang out. We would be scared of what our fathers would say. We stayed together and I think that was a little help letting them get pass it.
It can destroy friendships. I had a friend that I held a grudge towards her. I didn’t talk to her for a year. She was one of my best friends to. That was because she backstab me. When I started getting over it she had moved. She left with us fighting. I regret not letting go from it. I’ve learned from it. That’s why I don’t hold an anymore. You live life better without any.
It can destroy lives too. I don’t know if it’s just me but getting along with my family is very important to me. I feel bad and sad when I don’t get along with my family. My dad is sometimes sad about it to. I can tell because he talks about family a lot. It’s sad to hear my dad talk about it. He tells us not to hold grudges. We want all of us to get along. I’m so glad that the fight is going away.
You see how holding grudges can affect you and what you do. That’s why for me, I let them go now. I don’t like holding them. I can forgive and forget now. I think everybody should forgive and forget. You live life so much better without holding grudges. Holding grudges can affect you and what you do. Holding grudges isn’t good this I believe.
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