I believe in good company
We hear often the phrase “Birds of a feather flock together”. I used to think that this was just a regular old saying in our society that had little or no relevance to me in my life. Now that I am older and able to look back on all my past experiences, I see a lot more clearly how true this statement above really is. I firmly believe in being in good company, and have come to that conclusion through some of my own experiences.
I have had good experiences and bad experiences that have given me a pretty good standard to hold up as I look for the right friends (Birds you could say) that would be a good influence on me in my life. Who we associate with I believe has a direct reflection on how we are personally, if I am with one of the most depressing group of kids than how else am I going to feel but depressed. Here is one of the bad examples I was talking about earlier.
My freshman year of High School I was real anxious to have as many friends as possible and was building a group of friends that I would feel comfortable to be associated with. I was not being too careful with what company I would end up with, but this would soon be coming back to haunt me. While cutting up and doing what me and some friends thought was funny at the time ended up getting me into a lot of trouble, trouble that I do not believe I would have had, had I been a better judge of what company I was in. I am in no way trying to say that it was everyone elses fault but my own but fewer roses grow when there comes to be more and more thorns.
Now that I am older and realizing mistakes of the past I feel happier than ever about whom I am associated with. As people come to know what company I keep associated with they come to know who I am just as well. I am a happy outgoing person, I enjoy making people laugh, and since “Birds of a feather flock together” all my friends and family are like that as well. Whenever I may seem down or upset about something I have built associations’ with just the right people to help make me laugh or feel better than how I felt before.
At times I find myself alone and when that happens I now become the group of friends, I am the one that is responsible for what I do and how I feel as I do it. This helps me keep a good/positive attitude, which is good, because you can’t always rely on everyone else to make you happy. At some point you decide whether you are happy or not. I have just found through my own personal experience that it is much easier to be happier once I am in good company.
This was not something I realized was such a strong belief of mine till I started to think of my core beliefs and I have come to realize that a lot of what I believe is in some way connected to who I know. I am forever grateful for all my friends and family and that is why I believe in good company.
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