When I was a little kid, even if I made a tiny mistake, everyone would yell at me. They said they were just making sure that I wouldn’t do it again in the future. But it made me feel like I didn’t want to do anything, because if I did something, I might make a mistake, then everyone would just yell at me again. I tried to avoid taking any chances until one day, my dad couldn’t tolerate me from avoiding chances anymore. He told me to “Learn from it!”
There were times that I wanted to avoid taking chances, but still had to face the challenges. When I first came to the USA, I had no idea how to speak English. In school, all I could do was to stand where I was and watch people do what they were supposed to do. Of course, I felt frustrated. For the first week, I kept on asking my parents, “Why do we have to stay here? We can go back to Taiwan and enjoy our lives. Why do we have to go to stay here and learn its language? Let’s go back!” At the end of our first weekend, my dad exploded. “Can’t you just stay here, and stop whining? If you don’t think you can do something, why not try to overcome it? Learn from it!” I was shocked. My dad had never yelled at me like this before. Never. I thought about it. Yeah, why not give myself a chance, a chance for me to face the challenges? The following Monday, I began to work hard in school, finish homework, talk to people and try not to think about giving up. This frustration taught me that we should never give up although we might be in a situation where we can’t do anything. Try to find something that you can do, and make through it. Keep moving through until you succeed.
I believe that if you want to stand up and overcome something, the most important thing that you need is determination. Wanting to succeed in something without determination is not enough. Determination is a spirit that keeps you to go on to do something. Without it, you won’t succeed in life. Having a dream and making a dream come true might sound similar. But it’s a whole lot different when you do the two things. But some people might just stay in the state of defeated and don’t have determination. If you stay in a defeated state, everything will just remain the same. You are not going to change anything. Once you feel it this way, you are failing.
Standing up and overcoming your frustrations might be hard, but if you have the determination to succeed, you can always try to make it. Even if you tried and failed, you won’t regret your efforts. Why? Because you’ve tried. Better than doing nothing. Once you learned how to stand up and learn from the frustrations, you are half way to a successful life.
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