Do you remember the golden rule from kindergarten? Treat others how you want to be treated. As life goes on and people get older they tend to forget this rule. I forgot this rule and made a mistake. Everyone makes mistakes and we need to learn from them and fix rather than ignore them.
I said it pretty loud because I knew she was close enough to hear me. I said all of our names and made sure not to include hers. We were assigned to do a project and had to pick groups. There was no limit on how many people could work in a group. We knew how much she wanted to work with us on this project. We didn’t want her in our group though. That day, when I saw her sitting at another table, ready to work with another group I felt bad for her. Deep down inside I knew I shouldn’t have excluded her because I knew how much she wanted to be in our group. I felt guilty and just plain mean. I knew we should have included her in our group. But I didn’t take a stand and include her.
Now I make sure to always treat others how I want to be treated. If you are nice to people, people will be nice to you. If you want to be mean, then that’s how you’re going to be treated.
Everyone has been excluded from something at some time or another. Watching them laugh, work, and talk without you hurts. When you exclude someone you always feel guilty whether is right after it happens or after you’ve thought about it. I believe that we should treat others how we want to be treated. No one wants to be the person that’s left out. If you want to be treated the right way, you have to treat other people that way.
As I was looking at the girl who had to switch tables to work with another group I realized that leaving her out was the wrong thing to do. We exclude people for no reason whatsoever. We just decide that we don’t want to include certain people, and we do it. Usually we don’t really think about what were doing, who else it will affect or how that person is going to feel. Treat other how you want to be treated, this is believe.
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