Decisions and Actions last for generations

Deepak - USA
Entered on April 30, 2009
Age Group: 30 - 50
Themes: death, family, hope

Beliefs will form through the life experiences which are professional and

personal. These experiences will make one see things on a bigger scale and

also will make emotionally strong. When I look back the biggest thing

happened in my life is the death of my father (44years). I remember it very

clearly that our family was devastated because of the death of my father and

we (my mother, sister, younger brother and I) were shattered & clueless on

how to face the future challenges. It took us at least 3 or 4 months to

recover from his death.

My father passed away when I was in the third year of my engineering

degree (under graduate). We had the family owned timber business and

as the older son of the family I had to take responsibility of the business. We

could only meet our ends through the income from the timber business.

This was the time when IT industry was booming in India and my family and

I were not clear on my future plans (Studies or Business). We all realized

how valuable the presence of my father and how good and easy the life was

when he was around.

Now after 13 years we all moved in our lives (my sister is a Bank Manager

in India, brother lives in Ireland, I am doing my masters in US and father of

two boys) none of us talk about our father or remembers him, may be the

only time we remember him is on his death anniversary. I always ask myself

does he deserve only this much? Or is this the case with everyone? He was a

reasonably good business man, a good father and a good husband. I am

sure he deserves much more than this and at least he should live in our

memories and in his business circle. But that’s not the case. I think the

reason why his contributions were not remembered now, it is because most

of his actions / contributions were for his own benefits and for the immediate

family members. He did not make much contribution to the society (could

have been our church community, education for the poor children in our

area…etc, easier to contribute to the society in India compared to US and

European nations). After analyzing the way my father’s legacy is fading

away several times, I strongly feel that if one needs to make an impact with

their lives they should think beyond the needs of himself and his immediate

family members. Need to touch people, need to contribute to the benefits of

the wanted. One of the reasons why I am doing my MBA is also in line with

this thought process, that I should be able to analyze situations and make

decisions which has a long term vision and eventually it will address the

need of the majority.