When I was a child, I did not listen to other people’s opinions. My mother often told me, “Listen carefully. You should concentrate to listen to other people until his end of the story.” Yes, I could not listen carefully by the end of their story because I can easily suggest what people want to say without listening to the end. Of course my recognition sometimes was different from their intention because I did not listen carefully.
However, I changed my mind when I was a college student. When I joined a group of camp leaders as a volunteer activity, I met a cute and pretty woman by whom I was shocked. Her name is Hiroko. She was a very good listener who can listen to people with not only her ears but also her eyes. When I talk with her, I overwhelmed her strong eye power. (In addition, she was so cute that my heart beats rapidly…) I felt that I could not compare with her at all. At that time, good listeners have a strong power and I want to become a good listener like her.
After that, I attempted to be a good listener. However, my long time bad habit could not be fixed so easily. Originally, I speak more than I listen and I cannot wait without saying what I want to say. I changed my mind. I attempted to look at the speaker’s eye during his or her talk and to listen more actively.
At that time, I got a chance to study in the United States. Due to my poor English ability, I need to concentrate on listening to people’s talk in order to understand what they say. After I begin to listen to other people’s speech carefully, I realized that active listening is not so easy because it requires high concentration.
I realized again that Hiroko’s strong power comes from her great active listening skills. When I listen to other people’s talk actively, I can understand their intention better and they also become talkative and give a lot of information to me. Active listening has a strong power.
I am not sure where and what Hiroko is doing now. If I have a chance, I would like to meet her and I want to let her recognize my active listening skill that I have changed.
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