My head faced down with disappointment, 10 seconds left in the game our team down by one. Coach draws a play for me, distinctly saying to pass it if I’m not open. Our timeout comes to an end as we’re about to inbound the ball. I get the pass then dribble left, but I wanted to be the hero so I forced up a wild shot. The ball looks as if it was going in, but hits the nothing but the front end of the rim. The buzzer goes off and we loss the game. I forced a shot I shouldn’t have and from then on I learned to not force anything at all, not just in basketball, but in life itself. A year has gone by since that happened, but those thoughts will never leave my brain; the memory of the shot is fixed and apart of my life forever.
The temptation of wanting to do things your way will come at all of us everyday. I’m glad I went through the pain of losing an important game to understand that. At the end of the day the stories I tell and the feeling id feel winning that game will just be nothing but the past. What I have now is the knowledge I use on a daily basis that I will carry on with me forever.
Forcing an issue, forcing a shot, forcing things where they do not belong can relate to us all at some point in our lives. No matter whom you are, bog or small, young or old the issue will somehow come to us at one point. One day I watched my little cousin Karl of through the process of “forcing things.” Karl was playing with some toy that teaches kids shapes. Triangles go into triangle holes; circles go into circle holes and so on. As I watched Karl, he got upset because he couldn’t stick a rectangular piece into a triangle hole. I started showing him that it had to go into the rectangular hole, but his stubbornness wouldn’t allow him to do so. Sometimes, we’re so narrow-minded that we force the issue. We try doing things that won’t work, yet we insist that we can get through it by being persistent. Sometimes we just have to realize that we can’t stick things where they do not belong.
One belief can change the whole outcome of someone’s life, and in my case it really has. Living each day knowing to never force what does not belong has helped me focus on what does belong in my life. The frustration and failure of trying to make things work with force has helped me come to realize things will not get me what I want in life. Learning to accept what I don’t force in my life will only bring better things into my future.
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