This I Believe that regrets shape who we are today. The saying “No Regrets” has become a popular way for people to live their lives, when honestly I believe this is not possible. I believe everyone is going to at least secretly regret doing or not doing, saying or not saying, being or not being, losing or not losing, winning or not winning, or even loving or not loving something or someone in their life. I have many regrets, and I am only 15. I regret making decisions; I even regret not making decisions. I regret doing stupid things, such as falling out of my chair at a restaurant, or if you know me well; saying stupid things. I regret being friends with people who used me, stomped all over me, and in the end, left me to sit at a table, all by myself during lunch looking like a loser. I regret not being friends with people who I believe could have changed my life. I regret losing friends for stupid reasons. I regret not being outgoing enough. I also regret not being smart enough to shut my big mouth at times. I believe I will have many more regrets in my life, and I am fine with that. If I lived with “No Regrets”, as many people say they do, I would not know how to be my own person. I would not be as comfortable in my “blond moments” as I am now. I would not know how to pick a good friend. I would not know when to be quiet, and when I need to speak out. Most importantly, I would not know how to be me. I do not see regrets as a bad thing, but more as a way to teach myself when to do something or not do something. When I am eighty-seven and looking back on my life, I’m sure I will regret doing or not doing and saying or not saying hundreds of things, but I don’t think I will see my life as a failure or not as full because of these regrets, but more as a success because instead of living in a sheltered world, making no mistakes, I would be out living my life, making mistakes and learning.
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