Relationships are happy, sweet, bitter, sad, painful and so much more. Relationships will never be perfect and it won’t always be blissful. In addition, there are advantages and disadvantages. Advantages include warmth, care, and love. Disadvantages are things like arguments or fights over little things maybe jealousy, or trustworthiness. There will be a throb, and even smallest things can hurt me and make me cry. Looking on to the future though, without a relationship there wouldn’t be marriage and a family.
Two years ago I had a boyfriend who was amiable and someone I could trust. After two months getting to know him for real I realized that he was an absolute jerk. Why?! He constantly lied, called me names, and yelled at me. That wasn’t the boy I thought he’d be, but looks can be deceiving. That was before I knew what kind of tribulations he had with his family. A awful thing about him was that his father left him when his mom was two months pregnant. She had financial problems and was in debt. I understood that he was mad and upset about the situation. He took his anger out on me, but I tried my best to help him out. Our relationship and the situation involving his mom had just got too complicated. We constantly argued and not one single day did we get along. So, after nine months of dating, I broke up with him on his birthday in front of his friends and his sisters. It wounded me inside to end it right there, but I it was better for the both of us. Although it was a bit difficult for us, we still managed to stay friends and talk.
A year and a half later, his mom was hoping that we would get back together. I didn’t want to get back with him. It would be too much heartache always having to argue. Just two months later, his mom got into a car wreck; she was still hoping that her son and I would get back together. Now, she was in the hospital, hooked up to machines. I didn’t think the accident was serious and I hoped that she would wake up. After five days the doctor said she couldn’t live without the machines due to her head injury from hitting the windshield. After a day, the machines were unhooked and we watched her leave.
My ex-boyfriend didn’t have a father, his mom raised him and his sisters alone, and now he had lost her, too. If I had stayed in a relationship with him, it would have been hard for me to see him go through his life without parents.
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