Women in this century have learned to become independent, strong, inspiring people who make an influence on our world. Yet, even with so many women out there representing for the rest, there are still women around us being suppressed by their partners, mistreated, abused and hurt. It is my belief that these conditions should not exist, and I believe every woman out there should try and fight against this increasingly growing circumstance that we are seeing.
I come from a family in which my mother suffered abuse. I hold no hatred against my father because he was usually under the influence of alcohol. But, even though I try my best to not be mad at him, there are times when it is inevitable. Seeing the suffering inflicted upon my mother, the terror in her eyes when he was coming towards her. It was awful living through such an awful scene and seeing my mother go through something like that. As a child, times like those push you to become stronger. They give you the inspiration you need to continue through life making sure that you are respected, and that no one ever underestimates you or believes they can hurt you and get away with it.
Even men should play a role in liberating these battered women. It is not hard for someone who has gone through such a situation to be afraid of men. But they are not the enemy. Those women should not go on afraid to even hold a friendly conversation with a man. Every man out there is not to blame for the faults of those few who decide to take advantage of a woman who is weak and blinded by love and let’s herself be abused time and time again. That is why men everywhere should join this cause; show them there are still people they can trust around them.
I believe battered women’s shelters should not be places where people are embarrassed to go because they do not want to be seen in the public as an abused woman. I believe these groups should join together and make it clear that, it is not an embarrassment to attend one of these facilities seeking help. Women should understand that these shelters are open to them so that they have an opportunity in bettering their life, and the lives of their children.
Impacted with images of my mother being beaten and hurt when I was only a child has made me a strong believer in the importance of women understanding what they should not be living through. They should understand that an abusive spouse does not love you, and by keeping quiet and submissive to the abuse they will not cause in any way for him to try and change. I believe we should all join the fight against abusive relationships and free the women, and even men out there who are suffering day by day in their painful silence.
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