Can we eradicate love completely? It is an interesting idea. It seems that MTV and popular dance music are really trying hard to accomplish this goal. They have this power to see nothing besides instinctive drives and physical pleasure. The things they sing about most usually follow the basic list of money, alcohol, and sex. Descriptions of rape have become common foundations for rap lyrics. The young population of America has become so habituated to these messages that it is like they have never been offensive. I hold that we can become a better population than these songs want us to be.
Dancing with a girl has been reduced to nothing but knee bending as a means to an end. All finesse, skill, and grace that used to describe the act do not apply so much. There are no such things as good dancers at a dance club anymore. Everyone can grind out a song for three minutes. There are two styles of dancing to popular rap music. A couple can bend knees together face to face, or they can bend knees together in the spooning position.
The huge importance alcohol plays in these songs also helps the general proclivity to patron the club scene. Any barriers or dignity that a person may have had for oneself will become inconsequential if the drinker can consume enough alcohol. By artificially lowering the person’s natural self control, they are likely to act in ways they never would have dreamed of acting had they been in their natural state of mind. This seems to be why grinding does not seem to be as vile as it may once have been thought. I know how to swing dance.
And the ways we have progressed with women. In 1967 Aretha Franklin sang a song titled “RESPECT.” In this song, she sings of how a man needs to prove his character to her in order for her to open up to him. In this day and age I believe it has unfortunately become the custom of the seeker to buy acceptance from the person that has closed off. This could be an offer of material possessions, alcohol, or sexual favors. Can we not return to the days where class and respect were important virtues? I try to keep them.
In his revolutionary book 1984, George Orwell depicts a society in which all favoritism, or love, has been forcibly taken from the citizens. I hope that we soon realize how close to that we may be. I look for love.
One can only hope that the world will wise up and finally realize that purely physical relationships serve only to separate us. Until that day I will strive hard to uphold the mold that has been revered throughout the ages. The mold is that love is an ultimate goal, and the quality is always better than quantity.
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