Everything has an outcome that will change your life and you as a person for the better. Things that happen in life have a reason why. I believe that everything happens for a reason, that something positive will come out from a negative.
When I was six, my mom was diagnosed with breast cancer. I never understood why this was happening to my family. “Why couldn’t this happen to someone else?” I always thought bad things really only happened to bad people. That it’s okay if bad things happen to bad people. That good, caring people were almost immune to anything bad or wrong in life. That good people should live a life with nothing wrong and as perfect of a life that life can get.
I knew my mom was a good person and certainly didn’t deserve anything as bad as cancer. I knew that cancer shouldn’t be happening to my mom because she was needed and loved by many. My mom survived the cancer and now is a nine-year survivor and doing very well. After visiting my mom in the hospital I knew that this cancer had happened for a reason. Seeing all of the sadness in the patient’s and visitor’s eyes, hearing the cries of loosing loved ones, and feeling the coolness in the hospital even though we felt overwhelmed warmth with love and compassion. I knew that visiting my mom in the hospital brought something good and life changing to my family. The only problem was that I couldn’t find the good reason a wanted.
Finally, when I was in the sixth grade it hit me: my mom, the closest person to me was diagnosed with cancer to help my family get closer to each other, God, and even closer within ourselves. My mom’s cancer did obliviously bring hard times and sad times, but the outcome has left my family very close with overall no regrets and has left us in tune with what really matters in life.
Everything does happen for a reason; in some cases the reason just can’t be found, but once the reason is there it makes all the sense in the world. Once the reason is found it shocks you that you couldn’t see it before.
Because of my mom’s cancer, we know that nothing should be taken for granted or just be forgotten, keep everything that matters to you close to your heart. Life happens and you need to grow with its changes. Through hard times the good times will always shine through you may just have to wait a while. Now, every time something bad happens, I know something good is gong to happen because of it. That makes the bad times not seem so bad at all.
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