Happiness and helpfulness

Alexander - Waterville, Iowa
Entered on February 24, 2009

I believe that, in order to be happy, you have to not only make yourself happy but, also make others happy.

All my life that I can remember, I have spent not arguing about or going against other people’s beliefs. I found that it was easier to make other people happy than it was to make myself happy. I thought I was doing the right thing by this and felt that I was doing my part in life or at least for now. Everyday I would find a way to make everybody laugh or at least smile and for a while I found that other people’s happiness made me happy. But, I have found that the harder I have tried to make others happy has made it even harder for me to be happy.

In order for me to be happy, I need to start taking less responsibility for other people and more responsibility for myself. This is the age where everybody has friends and everybody has enemies. I have discovered that as soon as you make friends of your enemies your friends become your enemies. I however have never had trouble with making or loosing friends. Having this ability is not always good, I have found. In fact, I have seen it many, many times where two of my friends are fighting and they both want me on their side.

Every time my friends fight, mostly the girls, I feet that it is my duty or my purpose to make everything better again. This is almost never an easy challenge. It is usually just someone saying something about someone else. Everyone spreads rumors. Its just natural, although it is never a good thing. We all have done it.

I am very good at calming people down and making them think rationally about the situation. Sometimes people just get so worked up about things that they loose sight of everything else and that is what I have to show them. You can’t let one person ruin your life or even just take away your happiness. Happiness is something that has to be defended by love and humor, in my opinion.

The other thing I have learned is that you cannot always protect people’s feelings and emotions. If you always protect someone, then what will they learn and how can you expect them to take care of themselves and learn how to get over their problem.

You also have to take care of yourself and listen to your peers and elders, especially your elders. They have already gone through the things you are going through and no doubt will give you advice to help you in your time of need.

A wise man once told me that in order to learn about our future we must first study or past. This is another thing I have taken to heart. I believe that, if we look back on our past problems, we can relate them to our present problems. If we can figure out the problem, it is much easier to find the solution.

The one thing I have learned about life is, when it is unfair, just let it go. This is probably why I am so unhappy. Just because I don’t take some things seriously enough.

If there is one thing that you get out of this essay let it be that you make yourself happy and then you make others happy and always remember to, “never take life too seriously. I mean nobody gets out alive anyway, right?”