Sometimes Losing is Winning
Everyone likes to win. No, everyone WANTS to win. Some people would do anything to win because winning feels good. It feels good because it gives you confidence and brings lots of joy to yourself knowing all of you hard worked has finally payed off. Another reason why people like winning is because losing just sucks.
Depending on how you take losing, it could be good or bad. If you take it as if you failed, then you actually lost. But if you take it as learning from your mistakes, then it is a good thing. This past football season, I experience a lot of victories. But more importantly, I experienced losing. Losing in this case wasn’t a bad thing though because we had a phenomenal coach. Yeah it sucked, but we learned from it. It told us where we were most vulnerable and what we needed to work on to improve our game. I think that losing even helped us into the playoffs. The reason for this is that our loss in the district championship game brought us back down to Earth. But instead of being down in the dumps, we used the anger from the loss and turned it into a butt kickin’ the next game.
There is another form of losing though. This one caught me off guard though. This isn’t your ordinary loss. This loss came from the heart. Miles and miles of heart. I was recently at a wrestling meet when I witnessed this type of loss. It was the last match of the junior varsity portion of the meet. Our wrestler, Eric, was matched up against a special needs kid. Everyone around me thought Eric was just going to go out and beat him. Before his match, Eric’s coaches told him it was up to him to do what he felt was right. Before he went to shake his opponent’s hand, Eric was just going to barely beat the kid. But as they shook hands and the match started, he had a change in heart. Eric let his special needs opponent beat him in an awe inspiring match. No one looked at it as if Eric sucked, but more as a kid doing a nice thing. Although Eric lost, the joy from his opponent couldn’t keep a smile off of his face. After you know it, I even found myself standing and clapping with everyone else in the gym. The excitement from Eric’s opponent made me feel really good. He had his arms up in the air and jumping around all over the mat.
Eric’s match really hit me. It made realize that winning isn’t everything, that sometimes you lose to do the right thing, and that losing may have a greater reward. Because of Eric’s courage to lose, he was rewarded. That is why I believe that there is more to losing that just a mark in the loss column.
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