The one basic philosophy, that follows me throughout my years, is this: respect
should be shown to friend and foe. Respect is one of the simplest things I can show to
everyone. Yet, it is hard to do so at points in time.
I played a game online for two years. I had respect of not only the players, but
also the staff members as well. If I had a question about behind the scenes actions of the
game, I was told the answer. It did not matter if it was suppose to be staff only
information or not. I was just respected by them that much, that they knew they could trust
me with the information.
One day, the most disrespectful of the staff members was on when I asked a
question. He instant messaged me asking me if I “Thought I was special.” I immediately went
into defensive mode to protect my own respect and hopefully the respect I thought I had
shared with him. Things went down hill from there, as I tried to explain why I ask for the
information I ask for.
I ask because I usually, I get an answer. Throughout the entire discussion, he
continued to be disrespectful and rude. I continued to defend reason, but still remained
respectful. At the end of the discussion, I asked him why he had been rude rather than
politely explain that he would not give out the information to non-staff members. His
reply was: “I don’t respect people that don’t deserve it.” So began him disrespecting
people in the game without reason and abusing his powers of being staff in the game.
I still showed respect to him, in hopes that he would return it sometime. He never
has, and so forced me to leave the game. I could not stand the lack of respect shown and
the lies being told. I still respect the game and the other players enough that I continue
to offer ideas and suggestions to the game creator to better the game.
I have tried to play other online games, but the respect I show is not reflected
back to me. I worked so hard to get that respect that I held on the older game, that
playing any other game I played and did not get respect just made me feel worse.
Respect is my philosophy. Learn it, share it, take it are all people need to do to
be satisfied with respect. I don’t see why some people won’t show it even though they
accept it. Respect is what makes my word go round.
If you enjoyed this essay, please consider making a tax-deductible contribution to This I Believe, Inc.