When I was young, I believed that time was abundant, and that there was no sense in thinking about it. As a child, I wanted to be older so I could do some of the things my parents said I was not old enough to do. When I was a pre-teen, I wanted to be 18 so that I could be ‘legal’ to do a lot of things I thought I wanted to do. When I became 18, I wanted to be able to drink and get into nightclubs without any hassle.
When I was in my 20’s, I was trying to figure out what I wanted to do with my life – whether it was school or immediate job placement – because I wanted to be my own adult. Having my own car and apartment seemed so enchanting until I realized I had to face the financial responsibilities attached to them.
Life settled in, and I realized what I coulda, woulda, and shoulda been doing. Relationships, broken hearts, not finishing college at a certain time, financial burdens, and children, often deterred my dreams.
Now, I think about destiny. Now I know the difference in respecting time, and putting the right things into it. Now, I realize that time waits for no one, and that time continues to move faster than you realize.
Through wisdom and time, I now, even at this late stage in my life, realize that I still have control over my destiny. It is never too late to realize my dreams or aspirations, and the best solution to that is to execute. I have learned to plan is great, but to execute is far more result driven. It takes time, discipline, perseverance, and understanding that most youths do not have. If one is wise enough to learn from other people’s mistakes, then wisdom can be granted at any age.
I redesigned my life to become a student of life once again. I have studied what it will take for me to succeed, and use the examples of others as guidance. More importantly, I have taken a long, hard look at myself, and what I am willing to sacrifice to get there. Irregardless of what others think – including family, friends, and foe – I must believe in my true inner self to fulfill my own destiny.
Destiny has come to me as what is truly inside of me, and what truly makes my heart flutter when I think of doing it. Destiny is my willingness to do something that fits my idea of what makes me happy, and I could do it without getting paid for it. Destiny will help others around me through my talents; gifts and expertise, for these virtues are truly not mine to hoard. They are to be shared with the world. Destiny is enriching my life and my soul.
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