Have you ever had a friend promise you a forever friendship? A friendship that will last
long and never end no matter what situations you both go through, whether they are bad or
good situations? I believe that a true friend does not exist.
On November 5 2007 I meet a beautiful, interesting, and funny girl. Nancy Martinez was
the name of that interesting girl. The first time Martin presented me with her, nothing ever
came to my mind that Nancy would someday become the best friend one could ever want!
School was no longer a camp of battle where I’d have to struggle and work hard all the time to
succeed. That special person I was waiting for had come and was there to make my
days cheerful and full of energy with her tremendous laugh!
Like five year olds and elementary students playing on the playgrounds we would do so
many things without having to worry about people saying this and that to us. We were like
birds flying here and there singing in a paradise where no hunters would come and hunt us.
Realizing that the person you were looking for is now there is so satisfying it feels like you
don’t have to ever worry about losing it because they promise you a forever, a forever that
is said to one is as if you will see each other even high up in heaven. Something that is going to
last always, with no expiration date.
The months passed and we were still that pair of cheerful singing birds. We were so
inseparable that we got to the point where people questioned if it was only a friendship
relation or an actual boyfriend girlfriend relation, something false, we were a couple of
best friends that promised a forever! On a Sunday morning at Fox River Mall, Nancy is
presented to a handsome guy by one of her friends, something that was not of much
importance to me because nothing was going to change our relation, even if new people came
to our lives. Nancy confesses to me that she begins to feel something for him, I tell her to go for
what her heart feels and she does so, days later they began an actual relationship! I was very
happy for her because she would have someone to love, etc. but at the same time my heart
was beating and felt like a herd of wild horses stumping on it, because it had the feeling that
this was the beginning of the end.
Months later our adventurous hang outs were coming to their ends. Nancy would always
be busy with her boyfriend and did not have time for me! Something I had to understand
because this was a new episode of her life, an episode where she was going to be loved, but an
episode that was not suppose to be guilty for breaking us apart and that ended up doing it.
On a humid summer afternoon my phone rings and reads “Nancy…BFF”.
(Nancy…Best Friends Forever), my face was full of joy because after a few days of not seeing
my best friend we would finally hang out again! What I never realized was that this call would
give my life a 90 degree turn, after answering the phone a soft broken voice on the other side
says “I’m sorry Richard, I know how much this is going to hurt you and me but we have to end
with our friendship”. My blood ran from my head to toes inside of me faster than the fastest
electronic train ever invented. The first thing my lips questioned was “Is this you”? The reply
was a yes. She tells me with a broken sad voice that her heart decided to go for her boyfriend
than for a friend whom she had promised a forever, a forever that had now ended full of
hypocrisy and lies. I did nothing but burst one terrified tear down my cheek and said “If this is
what you really want, I have always done what ever has mad you happy and if this is what you
want, I will do it, forget about my existence in this world and take your “forever” with you”.
This has made me realize that one should not trust who ever comes to you and promises
you a forever, a great experience life has given me and also a lesson that will always be
inside of my mind, because a “forever” that does never happen, will not exist inside of my feelings !
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