When I was in middle school, I was just a little girl who always followed others’ opinions. That drove me to become the kind of person who never thinks and talks for myself. Every time I answered, what I usually said was “Yes” or nodded my head, even if the idea was bad. I didn’t have my own voice. Following others was the best way to have friends, or so I thought. One day I talked with my mom about this after I had big fight and some argument with my best friends in my third year of junior high school. As a result of my talk with my mom I changed. Now I believe in my own beliefs. I choose to believe what I believe, according to my own thinking.
Maybe for other people their own beliefs fit their mind, but they do not fit my own thinking. So how could I believe what others believe? “Just believe in yourself and you don’t have to think what others are thinking.” That was what I got after I talked to my mom. She always gives me wise advices. “Don’t be influence by others.” At that time, everyone around me was sad, and worry about this issue will become a hole inside my hart.
My mom said I was too easy-going that makes me become a person who always follows others. She told me “You are not Julie Wang or Sherry Lin. you are Linda Chen. Will you think you have to have the same thinking as them or do the same thing they did? Think about it, you are the only person in the world; you are the special person in the world. You don’t have to believe others. ” This few sentences woke me up from the big fog of easy-going. Yes I am the only one, I am the special person. I am who I am.
During the argument, our family was worried about whether I will get lot of pain or scars inside my heart. But I kept the wise saying inside my hart to protect my beliefs, and avoided the injury from outside.
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