Ego is a powerful motivator, and it can be horrible. My ego has cost me friendships,
I have left jobs because I felt they were beneath me, and I have ended relationships that were
healthy because she was not as attractive or as goal oriented as the next women.
About a year ago one of my best friends passed away due to a massive heart attack. This got
me to thinking about what kind of a friend I was to him. I concluded that I was at times not a very
good friend. I would let my ego get in the way of what a friend is supposed to be. I would often badger
him about getting areal job not a delivery driver job and I would constantly tell him to lose weight, and
go to college. See I often expressed my view points on how life should be especially after I joined
the military. I never recognized just how happy he was, I assumed that to be happy you needed to have
a good paying job and a college education, he had neither.
My ego has gotten in the way of other things as well. When dealing with women I often times do
not afford them the opportunity to get the know them based off of where they are in life. What I mean
to say is if I do not think they are working toward what I see as a worthy goal I wanted nothing
romantically to do with them. Even though they may say that they are working towards a goal I still
would leave and look or a more goal oriented women.
I have had many jobs, some were given to me by friends and others I worked to get myself.
I have left jobs although they did not pay the big bucks it was honest steady work and I left for a
job that was very scetchy that payed alot of money. Of course the high paying job went away after a
few months and I was left without a job at all.
What I am learning now is that a sound decision is one that is made not at the spur of the moment
where your ego may take you in the wrong direction but over time when you have a chance to weigh
all your options. Patience should over ride ego.
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