This I believe that when a person vows “I do” at a wedding ceremony, that this promise should be kept for eternity. When two people are wed in holy matrimony, God means for them to be together forever, for better or worse.
I suppose I feel very strongly about this issue because I was part of a divorce, and it wasn’t my fault. When I was three my parents split up and I had no idea why my dad didn’t come home and push me on my swing set. I asked my mom, and she told me that he wasn’t coming back. I can’t count the many nights that I cried wishing that I didn’t have to go back and forth between their houses. Devastation filled my heart and that’s not fair to a three year old. Over these past sixteen years, my heart has mended a little but those feelings are still there. The situation could have been avoided. Secrets and miscommunication are two deadly components in a relationship, and if they would have worked out their problems it could have saved us all.
My story is unfortunate and will follow me for the rest of my life, this is why when I say “I do” I’ll hold that promise until the day I die. People have told me that I have a higher chance to get a divorce than most people but I find that very untrue. Marriage is sacred, and I know that when I get married and have children, I will not make the same mistake my parents made. I would never put my child through what I have gone through. Like Clint Black’s song, when I say I do, I mean that I will, until the end of all time.
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