You know the old sayings “live life to the fullest” and “grab the bull by the horns?” I used to believe that to an exponential extent, but now I’m not so sure.
My uncle is a person whom I think believed that, after this you can decide. He did everything he could to have a good time, but before his passing he said to me “Jacob, don’t live like I did.” I didn’t know what he meant, he had two daughters, a couple grandkids, he seemed happy, but apparently it wasn’t enough.
It took me well past his death to realize what he was trying to tell me. He and his wife had divorced, and on being on bad terms was an understatement. He rarely saw his daughters, or his grandkids. And he wasn’t on the best terms with his siblings. They had to deal because they were family. And finally he had very few friends and the ones he had were states away. I figured it out because I found a person who showed me a new life and in turn my belief. She introduced me to a lot of people who became very close friends of mine, I didn’t have many before. I learned that as humans we live life not to wait to die, but to find people to die with. People say that they would do anything for a friend or family member and if that’s true they found someone they can truly love, a person to die with, and that is the most amazing feeling in this world. And my uncle would tell you, to die alone is the worst. This I believe.
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