I’ve been through some pretty hard times in my life. I’m not saying that it’s been horrible, but it’s been difficult at times. There’s been a divorce between my parents, a dad who wasn’t truly there, and me having to grow up fast in order to take care of my younger siblings. Not horrible, just difficult, but it has been a tough ride for me.
The divorce didn’t really bother me, since my dad never really was around to begin with (work is always more important). The one event that completely changed my whole life is when I realized my dad cared more about material possessions than his own children. It tore me apart, inside and out. He cussed at me and made me feel like no one could ever love me, simply because I didn’t want to see him anymore. I was only 13 years old at the time this had happened, truly not old enough to handle that alone. I cried all the time, but never let anyone else see my pain.
At that time, I saw crying as a sign of weakness, and weakness showed that my dad won. I knew he felt victory every time I cried. Isn’t that sad? Who knows how it got so bad, but I couldn’t take the inside pain anymore, so I invited a friend to the most inner part of my soul.
Kristine is a great friend I feel that saved me through the toughest part of my life. She was there to listen, to help, and to comfort me. She allowed me to be much stronger with all the misery slowly fading away. She gave me the ability to be strong, and feel like I wasn’t suffering all alone.
Just knowing someone else was there that I could call was all I needed. There were many days when my mom had to work late, and I had to take care of “The Kids.” It was a big change for me. I became the second mommy. When things got too big or stressful I could always call Kristine. She didn’t always know what advice to give me, but that didn’t matter. She was there for me.
I believe in the healing power of someone being there. I believe that if someone’s there it makes any ordeal easier to handle. Without the simple caring nature of a good friend I would have crumbled under the sadness and stress. Everyone needs at least one great friend to help them through life because without great friends people would have to suffer all alone.
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