I was brought up in a world that taught me that if a person makes one big mistake, she does not get a second chance. It took a school suspension to teach me otherwise. I started college in the fall of 2007 with a can do attitude. I knew I wanted to become a nurse and I was confident that I could do it, but I made many mistakes in the beginning stages of my college career that caused acedemic probation which lead to suspension.
My first mistake was deciding to room with a friend from high school. She was loud and never kept quiet so I could study. She brought people back to our dorm at all hours of the night which prevented me from sleeping. My lack of sleep caused me to be late or oversleep my classes, which caused a slight slip in my grades. I was able to keep a B in most of my classes until my course load got heavy. I signed up for nineteen hours of classes during orientation because I thought I could handle it. Slowly papers and homework piled up causing me to fall behind. I was unable to drop classes because I missed the drop date. Those factors are the ones I could control and were my choices.
The main reason I failed was because of an incident that occurred in my dorm room. My roommate went out drinking and decided to bring home three men into our all girls dorm. They decided that they wanted sex from me, when I declined they molested me. The police came just before the men could get any further. I filed a police report and had to face them in court. After that, I was terrified to leave my dorm room. I missed many classes and began failing. I ultimately failed the fall semester and was placed on academic probation.
In the spring semester of 2008 I took less hours and moved out of the dorms to rectify my mistakes. I passed all my classes with A’s and B’s. Passing my second semester showed me that I was able to bring up my grades. I also took a summer class so I would not get behind on my classes which I also passed. After the summer semester I received a letter from the university that said I was suspended and required to sit out for a semester. I appealed the suspension because I thought I deserved a second chance. My appeal was granted and I am now doing better than ever.
This experience taught me that everyone deserves a second chance. It also taught me to look deeper in to a situation before I make a judgment. I believe that if you look into most situations you will find that there are other contributions to mistakes than just a poor decision.
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