All of us at one point or another have hit a wall and feel happiness is impossible. It could be the death of a loved one or the end of a relationship, but I believe that from every bad situation in life good can always come. Too some people this idea may seem crazy but for me some of my most important lessons in life have come from the hardest of times.
Growing up my sister and I were the typical grandchildren. We got our way with our grandparents and were spoiled even when we knew we didn’t deserve to me. For us it was double the treat being that we were very close to both my mom and dads parents. It was rare if we went more than a week without seeing our grandparents or “coco” and “nanny” and “pawpaw” and “omah” as we called them. Names we obviously created at a young age before we spoke clearly. My perfect and happy family of eight continued until I was ten and my sister was fourteen.
My pawpaw became sick and passed away suddenly. A few months later my omah followed. As if this were not enough, within the next year and a half both my coco and nanny also left us. My perfect world came to a crashing end in such a short period of time. It would be difficult for anybody to lose so many close family members in such a short period of time but especially for a young ten year old. Although I was young I knew I eventually had to pick up the pieces and move on. You may wonder how I managed to find happiness through this, but I did. From that point on I started to cherish the time I had with the people I loved and have not taken one second of that time for granted. This lesson I learned through a less than ideal situation has made each relationship I have today stronger than they would have ever been. If not for this hard time in my life I know I would not have become as close as I am to my Aunt Claire, my nanny’s sister. After her death my Aunt Claire became like my grandma and we are now very close. Since that time I have realized that even when things hit rock bottom I can always stay positive knowing at the end something good will come from it.
So the next time you feel like you have hit that wall, just know that if you push through it you will eventually find something you otherwise would not have.
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