I believe that you should not set goals for yourself because then, if you don’t reach them, you won’t be disappointed or ashamed. “I’m going to get this project done tonight”, “I’m going to go to bed at a reasonable time”, “I’m going to focus on school and get good grades this quarter”. Although these would all be good intentioned goals to set for myself, I cannot depend on myself to get it done in the future. With me, if I want something to be done, I have to do it when it is fresh in my mind or else I will put it off for a really long time and forget about it. I cannot say to myself that I am going to do something important tonight when it is still morning, because that just gives me an excuse to put it off even longer. In order to actually successfully pursue a goal of yours, you need to set it for the present rather than the future.
To be honest though, I try to not set goals for myself at all. When I try to tell myself that I’m going to do this or I have to do this, it makes me feel tied down to it and that I have to be really committed to it. It is better to just go with it, and do what you think you should do for whatever given time you have.
I guess that I believe this through my own experiences. Everyone sets at least some goals for themselves, even if they are really small. My old school was really hard, and I did really, really bad there. I found myself setting a lot of huge goals for me to try and get myself out of the mess I was in with my grades. Saying “I have to turn in every assignment for this class if I have any chance of getting a D.” If you know me, then you probably know that I got kicked out of Penn Charter. Part of it was because I just didn’t care about anything, and the other part of it was because the goals I was setting for myself at that time were basically unreachable. You cannot say that your going to turn in every assignment, you have to take it one step at a time and do what you think you have to do when you’re focused and your mind is straight. Just go with what you think you have to do. Otherwise you might just end up setting a lot of goals and being disappointed with your failure to reach them.
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