He ruined my life. He shouldn’t of broke up with me. These are the common statements heard when a boy breaks up with a girl. I have heard them a thousand times, but I don’t believe they are completely correct. In my eyes, he may have just made her life a whole lot better. I believe everything happens for a reason, even if the reason is unclear at the time. Life is hard but it never lasts forever and things constantly happen that I know I won’t understand why, and may not for a long time.
I came across a situation this past week and was faced with a dilemma. I had to choose whether or not to speak up about whom I didn’t want in my group. If I had said who they were, there would be no chance of me being in a group with them. Maybe I should have said their names, but I decided not to because I believe that if I was meant to be in a group with them than, I would be in a group with them. This may not seem logical in every decision I make but I stand firmly by my belief, and nobody will ever change my mind, no matter how hard my life gets.
Many of my friends, adults in my life, and even some of my family members disagree with the way I make decisions, basing them on my belief. They tell me that it is risky, completely relying on fate, but through all of my past experiences, I haven’t regretted it yet. People who consider me too optimistic or too flighty often question me if this is rational, but my reply is the same every time. I always answer: My method of coming to a conclusion has worked today and I had faith that it will work tomorrow.
My outlook on why hard, or good, times happen in life has caused me to have a more positive view of my life, and the life of others around me. My belief that everything happens for a reason has carried me through tough and rough times in my life, as well as to prepare me to see the good times in life even more positively. Good times remind me that the bad times do end, and vise versa. That’s a major reason why I believe that everything, no matter what it is, good or bad, happens for a reason.
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