“This I Believe: Second Chances”
I believe in giving people a second chance. Even when they are at rock bottom;
sitting in a hotel room, drinking their life away. Every one should be given a chance to
change and turn their lives around.
In 2002, when I was about seven, a hard time had hit my family – My parents
were getting a divorce and my dad was unemployed and an alcoholic. He lived in an
apartment for about 2 years and was kicked out. He then went to live in a hotel room and
he wasted all his money on alcohol. He missed a lot of school and life events for my
brother and I. His broken promises, excuses, and abandonment were all very hurtful and
impacted my life greatly. Although he had done a lot of bad things in the past and was
emotionally hurting my family, he’s my dad and I still love him. Like my mom says,
when you think someone doesn’t deserve to be loved, that’s the time they need your love
My whole family, including, my aunts, uncles, grandmas, my brother, me, and my
mom, reached out to my dad in his time of self-destruction. We invited him to dinners,
school events, etc. Although most times he did not show, the times he did were inspiring.
He would see how happy it would make us that he was there and that he cared about us. I
think a few very important times really gave him an urge to change.
One example of an impacting event is when my dad went back to California to
visit his family in 2005. All his brothers and sisters showed him so much love. I think
their love showed him that people cared about him and wanted to have him around.
Another example is when my mom, my brother, and I visited him in his hotel
room. We showed him how much it meant to us that we were just hanging around him
and enjoying his company. It didn’t matter about what he had done in the past and we
were all willing to give him a second chance.
I think all these second chances and love gave him the will and desire to change.
He has been sober for almost two years now and lives in a townhome. He is a great father
and has made up for almost all of the lost time. He’s funny and has almost never missed a
big event or even small event for me or my brother. My brother is in college and my dad
has supported him the whole way. I am so happy to have him back in my life. He is one
of my biggest role models.
If I hadn’t given him a second chance, where would he be now? This is why I
believe in giving the ones you love a second chance.
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