Everyone is fortunate to have parents. Parents that love for you, care for you and will make sure that you are safe at all times. Unfortunately, some of us are not as fortunate as others. Although everyone has two parents, some of us fall into the category of only having one in our lives. I personally fall into this category and I believe that unless the other parent is deceased, there is no reason why one parent should raise a child.
Raising one or more children by yourself is hard work. When I was five, my dad left me and my mom. Up to this day, I still do not know the real reason why he left. When I would ask my mom about the situation she would always reply,” He just wanted to move on” and that would be the end of the conversation. After hearing the same response over and over, I just refrained from asking. Even though I don’t bring up the situation any more, I still wonder every day why he left. Was it me? Did I do something to make him mad? Although I was only five at the time, sometimes I still blame myself for my dad’s absence. Seeing my mom raise me by herself allows me to have a lot of respect for her. I know that with all my flaws and troubles that I have, raising a teenager is one of the most difficult jobs without a father. Because I do not have a father figure in my life, I have become a more stronger and independent person. I do not rely on people to do things for me. At times I try to do things for myself and I try not to let things stop me from being the best I can be.
I believe that no one should be without a father figure in their life. Unfortunately my life did not turn out the way I would of like it to be. I have realized that life is full of ups and downs, and that I just have to deal with it the best way I can and be strong. My heart goes out to all the single parents and all the children without fathers, because personally I know that it is not an easy situation. I know that in order to continue to move on in life, I just have to put my faith in God. I know he will take care of me and my mom and he would not put us through anything we could not handle.
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