Talking, we do that on daily basis, for every hour or minute. In fact some people’s jobs are based on talking. Then why is that a phrase like, “Sometimes you need to talk”, come up in our lives. This means that they are some situations where you just put aside your ego, your status; to resolve an occurrence or an issue before it gets out of hands.
I had been best friends with a guy since I was in middle school. We were great with each other when we got to Lee High for our freshmen year. The year to party! He and I started having problems. We even stopped talking to each other for a while. He was working people against me, talking behind my back, “cock-blocking”, etc. This all due to, because him and I were competing for popularity, and attention at school. Girls were a factor also.
Here I am thinking this guy is my friend and he’s doing these ‘B.S.’ things to provoke me on purpose. I felt so betrayed, and awful. All of this went on all the way to the end of the school year. I had taken all his crap, but I had enough of it. So, it was decided that we were going to fight the day of the prom; right after school. That day my last class was gym. So, I was in there getting all hyped up and lifting weights when my friend Stephanie called me. She said, “Danish are you stupid? Why don’t you just talk to him first about what the problem is?” I thought about what she said. So after school forgetting my entire ego, and not worrying about the kids talking about me and calling me a coward; I went to him and said, “We need to talk.”
That sentence to him changed how I lived my life, and how I was not going to get in trouble. He and I resolved our issues peacefully by talking. We’re not friends any more, and hate each others guts, but we mind our own business. I always think about what if we would’ve talked long before. The misunderstandings and the frustrations wouldn’t have come with the problem(s). We sit with our friends at school, and our parents at home, and we talk. But do we really talk about what we really have inside of us. That’s so other people can see that, and help you. Kind of like what teachers do. We tell them what is bothering us, and they help us out. So all in all, sometimes we need to talk, and let people know how we feel.
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