Do you know anyone who has suffered a divorce? Well, about a year ago if someone asked if my parents were together I would have answered, “Of course.” Now, when someone asks are your parents still married, it’s heartbreaking to say, “No, they are not.” I believe divorce is the hardest thing I will ever experience, but I believe its for the best.
One day in July, I was about to go to the movies with some friends when my mom and dad got in an argument, again. I knew my parents weren’t happy; I just wanted to believe they were. I had been asking my dad for about a year, “Are you and mom getting divorced?” I always knew he would tell me, no. After the argument that day, I was so tired of hearing them fight all the time, I had to say something. I yelled at my parents, “Why don’t you just get divorced already!” My dad pulled me into the bathroom, and we were both sobbing as we discussed the future of our family. That day I knew things would never be the same; Christmas, thanksgiving, birthdays’, my dance competitions, going out to eat after church and everything a family would normally do together. I had kind of suspected the divorce, so it wasn’t a huge shock. What really got me was actually grasping the fact that my parents were no longer together, but weren’t together as one. Although, my parents are friends now and seem happy, I won’t forget that summer. That summer was a life changing time for me, and the rest of my family.
One of the hardest things about my parents separating is that I don’t get to see my dad but twice a week. I was extremely close to my dad, and when the divorce was final, things were different between my dad and me. I was depressed thinking to myself, things are never going to be the same again, never. Divorce may be easy to some people, but I took it very hard.
I was an emotional wreck when the divorce was final. It is hard whether to decide if you should be supportive of your parent’s decision, or you should let yourself be down all the time. Thinking negative about the divorce made it harder to get through it. I never really thought positive about the whole separation, but now that I look back and thinking the worst made it harder on me.
About three months ago I would have never thought my parents would be split. I know now, it can happen to anyone. You just have to try to make the best of the situation you are being put into. Divorce is a really hard time to experience, but in the long run you turn out to be a stronger person than before. You have to stay positive, and know that it will be best for everyone when it is all over with.
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