Be careful what you say
This I believe, be careful about what you say to someone.
He was my uncle and I loved him, but the news struck me harder than anyone else because of what I had said only two nights before, the last words I spoke to him. “I don’t care, just leave me alone!” I yelled at him, angry and frustrated at some type of school work. He smiled like he always did, sitting in front of the fireplace and simply ignoring the hateful words that came from me. It was his favorite spot in the house, by the fire that is he’d sometimes fall asleep there. I always yell and say things I never mean and it takes me a while to calm down and apologize.
But it was just that! I never apologized, I never turned around! Knowing I should say “Sorry” right then and there. I remember walking into the hospital room, looking at my uncle as he lay in the white bed with that same clay red covered boots, lifeless and pale; it pained me to look at him with such a grim face. Maybe I would have felt better if I had known I did not yell at him for no reason, if I had apologized like I had needed to, maybe I would have felt better but I didn’t, so I never felt good.
I know it was good that he didn’t suffer, but how much I wished he was still with us now, laughing and joking, smiling and picking on us all. My uncle was a great man he always cared for us and everyone else he always helped people he didn’t know and the people he did know, he was truly a wonderful man. But sometimes, when you say things that are hateful they carry on in the memory of that person, and in your own memory. I learned a lot, that what you say could make someone’s day better or worse and that what you say could, in fact be the last words they hear from you. I learned that it’s difficult, to be nice to someone who isn’t so nice to you but I have watched what I say to people, my friends and family because I fear what may happen that could make me regret it till the day I die the fear that I may say something hurtful and wish to reverse but unable to. This is something that I believe in, something I will abide by. Be careful what you say, for your words may be someone’s last. In my life I have learned from this, I have been better at what I say to people, always watching to not say something that I would later regret. When I get angry, I now tend to keep to myself and stay in my room or not talk at all you know the saying, “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all” Learn it, use it, and remember it. This, I believe.
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