Who are you? This may seem like a simple question, but in fact it is a much deeper question than most people think about. The majority of people would answer this question by stating their name or where they live, what school they go to, and what their job is. Of course those are all reasonable answers, but what about who you are as a person. What’s your character, what makes you the person you are, or how are you different than others? Every person has his or her own personality, even though it may be hidden by the people they associate with.” People are much happier when they live their own lives instead of those who they are hiding behind.”
Everyone has their own personality, and I believe that people must act on how they feel and be straight forward instead of letting others control how you act. Too many people these days are way too concerned about what others will think or say because of something that you do. If people don’t like you for who you are then let them be. People are constantly trying to be the person that everyone likes but I have noticed that those are the people who have none of their own personalities. These people have become too immersed in what others think and how others look at them, that they soon lose their own identity. Not only do they lose their identity, but they also put a huge amount of stress on
their shoulders, and soon they are living the lives of the group that they are with at the time, and their distinct personality fades.
Some people would say, “you can tell a persons character by their friends.” However, I do not believe this for a second. Many of my friends have completely opposite beliefs and morals than mine. Is this a problem? No. Some of my friends will argue about certain topics, but I think it is good for people because it allows them to express themselves and allows others to know where they stand on subjects. Now some of my friends share the same beliefs and some do not. Does this mean I am better friends with the ones who have the same morals as me? No, because either way I know where I stand, and what I believe. Even my closest friends cannot change my opinion on things I feel strongly about.
Others just try too damn hard to please everyone! This is one thing that will get on my nerves very quick. I have quickly learned that a person cannot please everyone all it will do is add a huge amount of stress to your life. These people usually tell people hypocritical statements depending on the people that are with at that time, and then say they agree with the opposite of what they said because they want to be approved by someone else. A person’s character is strong when then act alone instead of taking the easy way out and following the crowd. Now don’t get me wrong friends are great and everyone needs them, but friends should not control the beliefs of the group.
With this said, I strongly believe that everyone must be themselves and the best way to do that is to know who you really are deep inside, and let people know what you believe in. A person cannot have his/her own life by following another persons footsteps. To be a successful person your morals must guide your life, and the thoughts of others should not effect who you are. Everyone has their own beliefs and character, so live it.
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