I believe in loyalty. The sensation of being with one another, trusting and bonding, to keep each other safe and happy is as fulfilling to me as water in the desert. How many relationships can a person have in his or her lifetime where they feel that the person they are with is there for them? The sad part about how the world works nowadays is that we tend to use people for what they have or what they do, neglecting the fact that they are people with feelings. When a person encounters one who is genuinely there to be with them, will protect them and care for them, they have found someone who can be loyal.
I have had many friends throughout my life and many have been considered to be my “best friends”. One such friend and I got along terrifically in elementary school. We discussed many subjects, usually revolving around Pokémon or Digimon. We trusted each other, protected each other, and were always hanging out after school. Around the time we entered high school he started to get involved with drugs and alcohol. I refused to follow that type of crowd and so we separated soon after. He was a close friend who suddenly changed and left me to live differently, worse than how he used to.
I started dating in high school and I was introduced to a different type of persona than what I was used to. These girls, so attractive and energetic, stayed by my side whenever I was around. I was astonished when I experienced this because I had never had someone following me; it had always been the other way around. Needless to say I enjoyed their company and enjoyed our relationships. However, being teenagers they wanted to be with others instead of being pinned to one person forever. Every time someone broke up with me I felt the same aloneness that I had felt when my friend had chosen to drink and get high.
Now a senior in high school, I have learned that not everyone is going to leave you. I have fantastic friends, people who I would never trade. I have been friends with them for nearly four years and none of them have told me that I’m not good enough to be their friend. I learned that while there may be some people who never want to be with someone forever there are others who want to be with someone who is right for them and will be with them forever.
If someone leaves you to do something you don’t want to do, they don’t deserve your company. I have found that I don’t need to please anyone by being something different than what I am. Being loyal to those who love me and understanding that not everyone I know right now is going to stay there forever was something I had to teach myself. I believe in loyalty and being the person we chose to be.
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