I believe in the truth because it always prevails. It is easier to be truthful because no matter how many lies are told to cover up the truth, the truth always shines through. I have been lied to many times and every time it has hurt my feelings and damaged the relationship. This can be extremely painful when it is someone you love.
Once when I was much younger my dad really wanted me to go to a tutor. I had just learned that I needed help in reading. I was not ready to accept this and definitely not ready for help. My dad told me he needed to go to someone’s home to look at a remodel job. When we got there it was actually a reading tutor. I felt betrayed. This was so painful because I trusted my dad completely. I was young and thought my parents were perfect and my world revolved around them. Although I can look back and see that my dad just wanted what was best for me, his approach was damaging.
When I was in fourth grade my best friend slept over. We use to play with my dolls and my dollhouse. I had miniature furniture and a miniature family. The next day I could not find the miniature sister and mom. I asked my friend if she knew where they were and she said no. She slept over again and the next day I was missing two small stuffed animals. I became suspicious that maybe my best friend stole my toys. I asked her if she knew where the stuffed animals were and she said no. A week later she
brought the dolls to school. I saw them and confronted her. She lied and said they were not mine so I told my mom what happened. I was so sad that I had a guest in my home and she stole from me. This put my mom and I in a very uncomfortable position. We visited my friend’s house and discussed the situation with her mother. Of course her mother said this could not be true. She went into her daughter’s bedroom and found the toys. Our relationship has never been the same since and I could not trust her to sleep over again.
Both of these experiences happened when I was very young. After those two experiences my belief on being truthful was clear. You have to be as truthful as possible. I see what damage can be done to relationships if you are not truthful. It is difficult to recover trust when someone lies to you. You have that doubt about that person. I find being truthful is the best way to develop relationships and keep them. The truth can hurt sometimes but in the long run there is more meaning to the people involved.
If you enjoyed this essay, please consider making a tax-deductible contribution to This I Believe, Inc.