In life people always want to be treated with respect, but many times they themselves are not very respectful to others. Should that person be respected if he or she does not show respect to people? No, definitely not, you should be treated exactly the way you treat other people. The motto treat others the way you expect others to treat you may be one of the “golden rules” in life, but many people choose to ignore this simple rule. Basically people should not expect to be treated any different than the way they treat people themselves.
I am a strong believer in treating people the way that I would like to be treated. In order to receive respect from someone you must give respect to them. You can not go into a store, treat the customer service representative with disrespect and be impolite without expecting the same treatment back. If you are nice to a person they are more likely to be nice back and they can be very helpful with things you need. Being a respectful and nice person can help with avoiding conflicts with others. By showing that you are nice and respectful you do not give people reason to believe that you are anything different, therefore they will not confront you with negativity but with positivity.
Here is an example: You are driving on a busy highway and there is an exit up ahead. The person in the lane to the left puts their signal on signalling that they need to move over. Do you speed up and not let them in, or do you slow down and let them pass? If you were in their shoes and you needed to exit what would you expect the person to do? This is an example of how you should approach certain situations. Ask yourself, what would I want this person to do if it was the other way around. By taking this approach to life you will make better decisions and be much more respected by others.
Parents, teachers and coaches are usually the people in our lives that try to teach us these values throughout our lives. Usually children ignore their parents and just think that they are old and do not know what they are talking about, but as we grow older we start to realize what they have always been trying to teach us. As a child my mother would always preach to me to make sure I am always polite and always treating people with respect. It took me a while to realize what she meant, and I had to experience for myself what she was talking about. One day it hit me, someone made a rude comment to me and it did not feel nice, I myself had made this same comment to another child and thought to myself this feeling is not nice at all. So sometimes it takes an experience to change someone’s thought process with the ways they approach situations.
Treating people the way that you would like to be treated is definitely the “golden rule” to living an honest and joyful life. People will give you what you give to them, so do not expect anything different. So if you are a person that does not like the way that you have been treated lately, step back and rethink the way you are treating others, there may be a connection between the two.
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