I believe in being a role model

renee - Inglewood, California
Entered on July 24, 2008
Age Group: 18 - 30
Themes: parenthood

I Believe In Being a Role Model

I believe in being a role model to my child. I feel the first people children should look up to as role models are their parents, in particular daughters to their mothers. Role models to me are stoic, compassionate, and committed. My role models are: Eddie George, former football player, Hillary Clinton, and my grandmother. I’m inspired by people who create change in positive constructive ways. I believe in positive change in order for my daughter Kamori to want to look at me as a role model. Since I didn’t have my mom as a role model, I want to do the opposite, and become a role model to her. When I became a mother four years ago, I took the following steps to improve my chances to become a role model. First thing I’m doing is attending college full time, so I can receive a degree, and start a successful career. Second thing I’m doing is not befriending all the people that I use to do unsavory things with. Third thing I’m doing is engaging in Kamori’s interest, even if I don’t feel like it sometimes. If it wasn’t for the drive inside of me to become a better person, I wouldn’t have the desire that I have to become her first inspiration.

Ever since I was a child, I always wanted to go to college. When I had a child I would want her to attend college too. I believe a college education is the gateway for what life can offer. How can one become a working adult without a college education or learning a trade for many years? Well they can try but I doubt one can go further without extensive knowledge. For example, when I worked for Superior Market, I thought I was qualified enough to work the cash register. Yet I wasn’t according to my team leader, only thing I was good for was cleaning up messes, and bringing in shopping carts. Therefore if I would have had previous experience, I would have gotten the job. In this generation, it is vital for me to have a college education. People don’t embrace ignorance anymore. I feel I have to make a financially successful career for myself to support my family. The example I want to make for Kamori is that education is important to have because some are not fortunate to receive an education. I want her to have aspirations to be anything her heart desires to become.

Mostly as a child I was a timid child. Friends were hard to keep because of my inability to express myself. To make myself feel secure, I would befriend males and females who I know were malevolent people that would talk about how a person looks, and then engage in friendly conversation so cunningly. After I had Kamori my friends were at first understanding that I couldn’t spend time with them like I use to. After awhile I felt like they were asking me to choose, either I go out or stay at home with my daughter. Of course I choose my daughter and the months passed by and slowly I lost touch with my friends. Initially I was sad and lonely because I didn’t have people in my peer group to talk to about things that were either bothering me or made me happy. Eventually I realized that I was better off without them.

Since Kamori was one years old, she love to create art whether it’s cutting paper for a collage or coloring in her coloring book or painting. Also, Kamori likes to dance and has the ability to become a ballerina if she chooses to. Mostly she likes me to sing songs with her or to her, and I try to learn the songs she sings at school to keep up with her activates. We watch her favorite shows like Dora the Explorer, Barney, and Lazy Town sometimes pulling me by the hand to come and watch television with her. At times I’m tired from studying or sleepy and not in the mood to engage with her but I know that as a mother and a potential role model, that I have build her self-esteem and her confidence up. Unlike me I had a mother who was too busy stressing out about her issues rather then spend quality time with her only child. I did not grow up with confidence that I had the support of my mother. I couldn’t have that happen to her.

Overall, I look forward to Kamori admiring me as a person because I only want the best for her. I consider myself a person who wants to create positive change. I want to remind my daughter that if she works hard that she can become anything, from a world class dancer to a college professor. Good children come from good hard working parents. I have confidence that greatness comes from hard work and establishing a solid dream. Hopefully when Kamori gets older, she can appreciate having a person like me for her mother and maybe when she has children that I will inspire her to become a role model to her children in the future.