I Blame Them
Failure is the grief you can feel prickling at your spine that makes your hair rise in discomfort. Failure is the need to compress a stress ball in anger. Failure is the need to claw your pointy, smutty, vulgar fingernails into the fabric of the couch. It’s all his fault. How could he do this? I can’t believe it. He did the worst thing in the world. I believe a man may make mistakes, but he isn’t a failure until he starts blaming someone else.
One time my mom bought a pack of chewy Chips Ahoy cookies. I tried one, and they were luscious. I took them and stuck them in my soccer bag so no one else would eat them. I took them to soccer for a snack before soccer. At soccer, I took them out of my bag and an army of people crowded around me like a swarm of bees. I shared with all of the others and in five minutes they were gone. After practice, I got home and sat down.
“Hey Jenna, Do you happen to know who ate all of the cookies?” asked my mom.
“Dad probably ate them all,” I exclaimed.
“Oh, okay” my mom replied. “I guess I have to get more when I go to the store.”
I believe a human may slip up, but they aren’t a washout until they start accusing someone else. I shouldn’t have blamed that on my dad but I learned never to do that again. I have also seen others blame other people when it was clearly their fault. In sports, when you make a mistake, it is so easy to blame someone else. Once, a girl passed the ball to another girl. There was not much time left in the basketball game and they were ahead by one point. A girl made a bad pass and blamed it on the other person and they said she didn’t come to the ball when she really did. The girl told the coach it was the others fault when it was really their fault.
People will make errors, but they aren’t losers. I believe this because no one should be ashamed just because they make a mistake. They shouldn’t be shallow enough to blame others on their own flub. You should be the bigger person and admit to your mistakes. How would you feel if someone blamed you? People should confess to their mistakes so that everyone will be happy. A person shouldn’t just take the easy way out in life.
The opposite of failure is success. Success is what everyone should look for in life. Success is the need to jump out of your seat and shriek with pleasure. Success is springing out of bed bright and early and just wanting to say, “This is going to be a beautiful day.” Success is feeling goose bumps on your arms and chills flying up your back in happiness that just makes you want to freeze and bellow, “Victory is on my side.” Failure shouldn’t be an option in your life, but success should be your purpose. A person will make mistakes, but they aren’t a failure until they start blaming someone else. This I believe.
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