I believe life situations help shape attitudes

Alberto - San Diego, California
Entered on May 4, 2008
Age Group: 18 - 30

I believe that life is like taking steps, which leave behind the prints of what I have achieved in life. Essentially when one begins to learn to walk, one begins to learn to run, wanting for others to catch up. As a child I have lived in an environment where my parents were very strict on me when it came to doing things they asked me to do. Looking back at these past memories and their way of educating me have really shaped the person I am today. Eventually when confronting other people I would expect the same reaction I had when my parents would ask something from me. Whenever their reaction was slow, or ignorant to what I asked of them I would become ferocious of their attitude and eventually ended up in a bad relationship, pulling people away from me. When I was only fifteen years of age walking down the streets of San Diego in Downtown, I came across this couple with three kids. The father was screaming to his three kids, “Why can’t you ever follow directions exactly how I tell you to do so and do things when I ask you. You are all worthless, ignorant slow thinking pieces of shit.” The mother full of embarrassment looked around continuously to see if there were any people watching them, ashamed of her spouse behavior. At that very moment it was as if a mirror was placed upon me and I was looking straight at myself. It was then when I begin to ask myself if I wanted to be like the father who was screaming at their children, who got out of control. Or did I want to become someone that people would turn to without fear.

I believe all I needed was a moment to reflect and think about who I was, and what was I going to become if I continued to do so. So I decided to change my reaction to people by becoming more polite and patient even if they truly are slow. Essentially this moment in my life occurred because I was living my life without pacing myself and I had become ignorant of my actions and how that affected those around me. It was then when I came across this couple and their children that I was able to stop for a moment and see how the father was treating their children I was able to decide that it wasn’t who I wanted to be. Since then I learned to become patient, and treat others with the respect, something I would expect others to confront me with.

I believe that treating those around me with respect and patience will bring people closer to me and create a much positive environment. After having decided to give a turn in my life, I began thinking on the numerous occasions on how others who approach me if I had the same attitude as I had in the past and if people would think of me as slow, stupid, and worthless. It is why I believe that taking steps one at a time would help to approach life in a positive way rather than live life pressuring others and yourself to do things in life. This I believe