Facing Life

Sabina - Canton, Michigan
Entered on April 19, 2008
Age Group: 30 - 50

A year from now, I filed for divorce. Months from now, I didn’t see results. Weeks from now, I got a second job. And days from now, I found out my divorced still isn’t finalized. I cried, my children cried, my parents prayed and my friends supported me.

Since my divorce wasn’t finalized, I had been married for nearly 22 years and every moment of life since I was 17 was heartbreaking, unbearable misery. I hate to be that harsh, but it’s the truth. I had been abused, used, and bent so low that it was very difficult to get back up on my two feet. For the last time my [soon to be] ex-husband and myself got in a fight and he left the house in January 2007. Last April, after taking advice from my parents and friends, as well as asking my children again and again, I gathered the courage and filed a divorce and not a day passed by that I wasn’t crying every night. With a ton of support from all, I broke away from the sorrow and tears, and went back to school to better my children’s future because they are my shining light that keeps me going everyday of my life.

It’s hard enough for people to have such a bad experience, but to cry and mourn over the stressful events that have taken place in life is not a solution. I want to be a spokesperson for all the women out there who has been abused, harassed, hurt, or used. It’s the hardest breakthrough to make to escape the traumatizing moments but it’s incredibly necessary.

This is life. If life were perfect, then the dishes would wash themselves. If life were perfect, you would never run out of eggs or milk. If life were perfect, you could grow tomatoes without ever having to worry of rabbits eating them. And that’s my point: Life isn’t perfect. When the sun goes down one day, it rises back up the next which gives you another opportunity to rise with it.

My best advice to give to anyone is that everyone has good times and bad times in life, but just because you’ve had a bad experience doesn’t mean you can’t move on, consider the positives and look forward in life. It’s like they say “Life has its ups and downs.”